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How to Avoid 2 Hidden Dangers on Your Self-Improvement Journey and Feel Better About Your Progress
We crave the certainty of a formulaic approach to personal growth, but in many cases, it serves to hurt more than it helps
There is something wrong with the way that many of us approach personal growth, and it has everything to do with ignoring a basic principle of life: certainty is an illusion; almost nothing is guaranteed.
The fact of the matter is, while tomorrow may be very likely, it’s never certain. You could die tonight — whether as a result of your own actions, or through events that you couldn’t have foreseen. It happens to people every day around the world.
In the backs of our minds, we all feel this uncertainty. And yet, we fight — and fight hard — to obtain certainty and guarantees.
We strive for tips, tricks, routines, and hacks that promise to get us the results we desire. We buy apps, tools, books, and services that we hope will deliver certain changes in our lives. We want the simple guide that lays out the 3 or 4 steps that will guarantee a given outcome.
But that simple guide doesn’t exist. There are no guarantees — as hard as we might try to get them.
