Greg, thanks for your questions. I wonder if perhaps I need to write a second essay to elaborate on the points I tried to make.
What I mean is that we have a habit of thinking that some dream scenario exists where we will be totally satisfied and things will be easy. But even the best job you can get, or best relationship you can be in will likely not provide that for you.
This was a call for people to alter their expectations of what a job, person, or attainment can really get them as far as happiness goes. I hope that was clear.